Oooh, date night with myself! The best part is that I feel I have been doing this for many years, and didn’t realize I was taking myself on date (although it may have been amusing to watch me talk to myself at dinner). One thing that I absolutely love to do is go to the movies by myself. I haven’t done this in a really long time, and finally two weeks ago I decided to go see a movie which I had been dying to see, but knew no one else was probably interested.
It’s liberating to have the confidence (although I never felt like I needed a boost of confidence) to go to the movies alone. I mention confidence because there are a lot of people I know who won’t go to the movies on their own. When I tell them I am doing just that, they tell me they have always wanted to do it, but the little voice in their head says they will be judged and labelled. My advice: flip the bird to that voice and go anyway, because no one cares whether you’re there or not. I do it for me, and I hope others, artistic or otherwise, do it for themselves as well. It’s always been the best experience for me. It’s great to have the opportunity and ability to go to watch these artistic characters emerge through miraculous stories, created simply for the enjoyment of others. I always leave feeling inspired, as if I need to go and audition. Secretly, I have always dreamed of walking the red carpet, and then slowly picking up my jaw from the ground; I am dying to meet everyone in Hollywood.
Another thing I do is go for walks by myself. I recently went for a walk down a new trail and had the best time. There was so much clarity waiting for me in that space. Not only did I gain some insights on my winter hike, but I was able to unplug from the world for 45 minutes, walk in silence, and feel the ground below me with each step. It has always been very grounding to spend solitary time in nature. I am surrounded by people every day, and as grateful as I am for that, I also crave the quiet peace of my own company. If you haven’t gone on a solo date yet, I highly encourage it! Hell, get yourself dressed up, slap on some heels (yes, the ones with dust on them in the back closet corner), gloss those lips and go for a night out on the town…with yourself. Trust me, it is the best investment you will ever make.