No Means Saying Yes to Me
Written by: Melanie Groves; Metamorphosis Healing
No is a complete sentence. ~ Anne Lamont
As a reformed people pleaser this quote was hard for me to swallow and laced with “what will they think of me?“, “will they be able to get by?“, and all the other million and one things that come to mind when you say no to someone. Then add ok, I am going to say no, and then please let me explain. It took time for me to realize that saying no, especially in the face of unrealistic or unmanageable demands was actually saying yes to me. When that realization sunk it, it was as though the lightbulb clicked and I understood what it meant to “put my mask on first”
No comes with setting boundaries and if it’s a new thing for you, it comes with work. Brené Brown brilliantly sums it up by saying “daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. ” For me this means standing tall in your power confident in your no. Stepping bravely to stand tall, and stand in your light, regardless of the critics that might tell you to dim, or stop shining.
Your challenge this week is to be firm in your no, be firm in your love to yourself and by all means shine on when you stand in that power.
Connect to your light and stand tall in it with this week’s meditation: