Trust and Float
Written by: Melanie Groves; Metamorphosis Healing
Surrender. That’s been my “lesson” as of late. Interestingly it’s also been the lesson of many of my clients. It’s an easy word to say but it’s hard to put into practice. Beyond being hard, it can be downright uncomfortable as we realize this means we have to let go of control.
Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing. – Eckhart Tolle
While many of us strive for this view by Eckhart Tolle: “Sometimes surrender means giving up trying to understand and becoming comfortable with not knowing.” , collectively we aren’t quite there. Collectively we are socialized that to be successful is to do, make lists, visualize, work hard, take action. While all of this is good, to an extent, rather than empower, it’s creating this need to be the master of the outcome. To control the outcome. If I work really hard then this exact outcome I want will happen. Take for instance a writer. You can force yourself to write 3000 words per day. You can do the thing of writing the words. But are the words good? Are they inspired? What if you put the intention out to write your 3000 words and then trusted and surrendered to the universe this desire. Then when you sit to write and realize the words are not flowing, in that state of surrender you walk away. Maybe take a walk. A bath. A shower. Sip on a cup of tea. And then, act on the inspiration. This takes trust. This takes letting go of the control of needing it to be 3000 words. Today it may be 1000 and tomorrow 5000. Trust that it balances out.
If you are a shopper imagine placing an order with an online retailer. You make your selections and your payment and you trust. You trust that your order will arrive. You don’t keep going back to the site every 10 minutes to confirm the order is in fact coming. You have no control over which delivery truck it goes on or the route the truck takes but you trust that it will show up. And it does. Whether you stressed about the order or not, the same outcome happened. It showed up. The difference being in one case you lost a lot of time stressing and second guessing while the other case you were happy when your order arrived.
Life works that way too. Place your order, your desire out to the universe and take the inspired steps. Then trust that it’s been heard and that the universe will deliver and get back to your life while the universe decides which delivery methods to use. Surrender is beautiful. We make it tough by resisting it and instead insisting on needing to control every little outcome. Let’s try surrender Rumi style:“Try something different, surrender“. Or even better get your visualization on and remember floating in the water as a kid. This is an example of a time when you fully trusted and surrendered. In those moments you fully relaxed your whole body and surrendered the doing, the floating, to the water. You were passive and yet powerful in this moment of trust. So you do have experience in surrendering!
What are you being called to let go control of? Whatever it is, know that letting go of control takes practice. Practice it with compassion and with this week’s meditation: