It’s How I Stay in the Flow
It has taken me some time to figure out what it means for me to be in the flow. I have come to the conclusion that it is really quite simple.
It is allowing space in my life and in my brain, to keep me calm and aware. I take the time to notice the little things that I love and that makes my heart beat. I have a heart sign that appears everywhere, and it is my constant reminder that I am in the flow. If you follow me on Instagram (just_breathe_mama), you will see my #heartmagic posts.
When life gets hectic and becomes overwhelming, everything seems to be much harder. The daily things I do, become disliked. I feel rushed, tired, like I never have enough time in a day. I start to feel negative and heavy, and the thoughts going through my brain are counting all the wrong things. I overthink everything, every small detail, and when things come together I seem to feel disappointed in the outcome. I don’t have any patience, I feel irritated by little things. Overall it’s not a good feeling and no one wants to live like this.
In order for me to stay in the flow of all things wonderful, the first step is to be aware. I have started a new morning routine after listening to a podcast on Awaken Radio, which has helped me tremendously. I begin my day by popping in my earbuds and playing soft music. My favourite choice right now is Sam Smith’s The Thrill of it All album. Then, I light two candles instead of turning on bright lights, and I allow myself to wake up slowly. I fill my oil diffuser with one of my favourite oils, I make myself a cup of coffee, and I sit in a comfy spot. I just allow myself to tune in to my body. I set my intention of how I want my day to go, by visualizing it. I breathe deeply and just relax. Now, depending on the morning I usually get about 20 minutes to myself, which is enough to drink my coffee and feel relaxed and ready for the day.
Before I started this routine, I would get up, feed the pets, empty the dishwasher, start or fold some clean laundry, and make my coffee. I would scroll on my iPad, but didn’t take the time for me. I would often start my day feeling irritated, and everything following seemed a lot more stressful. It’s funny how just a simple change has made such a big change in my mindset.
Another great way for me to stay in the flow is to set some time aside to do something good for my body. Whether its a quick workout, a walk, run, or yoga it allows me to feel good about myself, physically and mentally. I try to make sure that I eat a balanced diet (within reason — I have a habit of sneaking treats in, but it’s all about balance), so making sure I am also taking care of my nutrition is important. I know that when I have over-indulged in something or haven’t been active, it makes me feel crappy.
Being mindful and not allowing my brain to load up with too much at once is key. I take on one thing at a time. I have gotten better at this. In the past, I would obsess about certain things. Asking myself “is this in my control?” If the answer is yes, then let’s figure out the steps to deal with it. If the answer is no, then let it be and trust that it will work itself out. And remember, that things happen for a reason. I am a firm believer in this one. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel!
If I get to the point in my day when things have gone sideways, and whatever I am doing feels like I am fighting it, I will just stop and come back to it (if that is an option). Chances are, taking a step back and just giving myself a little breathing space is all I need. There are no rules to say that you can’t take a break. Even if it means five minutes. Those five minutes are better spent re-grouping and coming back with a fresh mind, than working against the grain.
It doesn’t have to be big changes to make a big impact, it truly is the little things. Lifting myself up, instead of negative self-talk, keeps me level.
In those crazy hectic moments, just breathe mama, you’re doing amazing!