All Hail Kale
Written by: Melanie Groves; Metamorphosis Healing
“Wear gratitude like a cloak, and it will feed every corner of your life.” – Rumi
Have you ever Googled quotes for gratitude? There are thousands of hits that match that search. Why? Because it’s the secret sauce, well ok less secret now, to transforming your life. Brené Brown says “What separates privilege from entitlement is gratitude.” This made me pause. It’s brilliant really. Think about it. I have stuff, and I grumble that my car isn’t the latest release or that my kitchen counter looks dated or that my purse is so last season, I don’t feel good about my stuff. When I sit in that feeling it makes me feel that I am in lack or “not good enough”. This is exactly where advertisers and companies want you to be. When I am in lack, I need more. And the way we are advertised to, having more leads to happy. And yet when you get more, as Brené points out, if you aren’t grateful for it, you actually aren’t happy.
The truth is it’s the opposite. Being happy, being grateful, leads to more things to be grateful or happy for. That’s where the abundance truly comes in.
For me I need to look no further than my vegetable garden. Every day I marvel at how the broccoli has sprouted again or the tomato plants are climbing. And the Kale. Wow the kale. It’s huge and it’s delicious. I swear it’s the gratitude that makes the garden thrive. I get asked what my trick is for growing the garden. I don’t have a trick other than to talk to my plants and thank them everyday. Thanking the sweetness, health, vitality and the nutrients that the food is bringing my family and I. Other than that it’s literally seeds in ground and water everyday.
Apply this to your kids or coworkers. I say thanks for everything they do, big or small. Why? Because it makes me feel good to see them light up with pride for having done something, and to be recognized for it. And you know what? They do stuff again. Because they feel recognized. Ok, well it takes more coaxing for the teenager these days, but the point is gratitude makes things smoother.
As the summer crop ends up on my table the more and more I am grateful. And that gratitude makes the food taste better. Ever notice when someone else makes something it tastes better? You can taste the gratitude. And the blessing is that the gratitude spreads to everything. I am grateful for the sunrise, and the more I am grateful the more the sunrises are stunning. I am grateful for the bunnies that line the walking trail, and more and more appear. Butterflies, cardinals, and goldfinches, yup I marvel and give thanks and they seem to show up out of nowhere. Even money. While I haven’t cracked the major lotto, I am also never without. It’s amazing that when I need it, it shows up. I had unexpected car repairs and then unexpectedly a back payment from a job my husband held over a year ago came in. In exactly the amount needed to cover off the car repairs. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
It’s not hard to be grateful. It takes a small step and the payback is huge. Go ahead try it. You’ll love the rewards.
Here’s a list of a few small steps you can take towards cultivating gratitude, (try one or a few):
- Start each day noting 3 things you are grateful for.
- End each day before you drift off to sleep noting 3 things you are grateful for. The last thing you think about before sleep will run through your head overnight.
- Write “I am grateful” on a sticky note and place it where you can see it as a visual reminder
- Thank everything in the moment. ” Thank for this green light,” “thank you for the sunshine”, “thank you to the stranger who let me go ahead in the line at the grocery”, “thank you for these delicious peas from the garden”, “thank you for the friendly nurse at the clinic”. Literally thank everything
- Keep a checklist of things that you are grateful in your pocket. Jot them as they happen, then review them at the end of the day and relive the gratitude of each event.
- If you have dinner as a family, go around the table and have each member share their “juicy” moment. What cool thing are they happy for today?
What’s your go to gratitude practice? Here’s another for me, I am grateful for the time to slow down in reflection and contemplation. Join me and sink into saying thank you from your heart with this week’s meditation.