Say Yes to Self-Love
I am the one with the soft heart. I am the one who is still learning to set boundaries, while staying true to myself.
I believe that I am a well-behaved woman. I mostly follow the rules. Yes, I have done some less than favourable things. I have made mistakes, and I definitely learned from them. I do everything with a good heart, expecting nothing in return.
A while ago, on a previous blog post Stress Busting, I remember writing about being a “yesser”- someone who is allergic to saying no. It’s the fear of hurting the other persons’ feelings, or in another situation, a desire to lend a hand and help in any way they can.
I have lived most of my life as a yes person. I had a hard time setting healthy boundaries, even though I was compromising myself in the process. This lead to physical and emotional stress, and constant feelings of emptiness. I have learned recently that even though I may believe I am doing the right thing by being a giver, I do myself more damage by not opening myself up to receive. It should be balanced.
I have always had a difficult time receiving anything. Whether it be a compliment, and gift, a coffee or a lunch date. I am always the first to grab the cheque, “I’ll get this one!” I have yet to figure out why I am the way I am. Why do I allow everyone around me to receive my gifts, but I have such a hard time accepting them?
It took me a moment to realize that I am making history as we speak, when I have the chance to give it some thought.
I am creating a ripple of self-love. Maybe it’s not always about receiving from others. Maybe it’s about giving back to ourselves. This is one way we can never be disappointed. Guilt free! When I escape from my home to have some me time, I remind myself that I am actually giving my family a better version of me, by taking a break and coming back refreshed. I will always make the time for the things that keep me balanced. The more I do this, the easier it becomes, and the happier I am.