Get Turned On: Sexuality, Power, and Money
When I was in college for my Social Work degree, one of the courses was Human Sexuality. The conversations about the body and health led me to work at Planned Parenthood and the Women’s Health Concerns Committee, an organization that researched women’s health issues, and advised the Governor of Pennsylvania and representatives on leading issues for women. Years later, I returned to the study of women’s health, connection, and body sensation when I was in a desire-based coaching program in the practice of Orgasmic Meditation.
Speaking at a women’s conference in 2013, I chose the topic of, “Sexuality, Power and Money.” Based on my experience with women in Heal My Voice, I was beginning to see that the suppression of the energy of our sexuality also suppressed our personal power and ability to make money. For women, our sexual energy is the connection to our intuition, our creativity, and the use of our voice. When we turn down the connection to this energy, we turn down our personal power, and the ability to ask for what we want in every part of our lives. This is also the connection to generating and attracting money.
I prepared the talk with simple exercises and processes to help the audience feel the sensation and connection between our voice, and the connection between sexuality, power, and money. I felt very alive in my body and the access to my intuition was turned up higher than ever. But, I pondered the question, how would I let the audience really feel what I was feeling all the time on the inside?
I went shopping for a costume. I found a black, sexy, business-style dress. I added a push-up bra to lift and accentuate my breasts. I added a pair of high heel boots and voila! I was transformed from the woman who lives in yoga pants, t-shirts and flip-flops into a sexy, powerful woman. The day of the workshop talk, I came down for breakfast in yoga pants and wearing a shirt with the words, “Powered by Orgasm”. I began to transform the inside into the outside. That shirt brought some giggles and comments – first step accomplished! Then, back up to my hotel room to change into the costume. As I walked down the hall, feeling the sashaying of my hips brought on by the high heels, I saw some women I knew. They stopped walking and stared. One of them said, “Wow! You look fantastic!” I smiled and replied, “Thanks. This is how I feel on the inside, all the time.” That became my mantra throughout the day and in the workshop. Ah, yes, the wonders of a costume to show the world an aspect of what is underneath and pulsing all the time!