The Funkinista in Me Sees the Fashionista in You
Parker:
This year, I intend to progress towards a better wardrobe. I have been pondering this particular situation for some time now (capsule wardrobe? uniform for work? what is my casual style? how can I have less clothes and love those ones I do have more?) I do not mean in terms of having more expensive clothes per se, however, that is part of it – to have less and with some at a higher quality – those basics that tend not to go out of style.
I did some initial research last year and after a few months of not focusing on it, realized a solution would come to me if I let it percolate in the back of my mind. And a solution is coming into focus, or at least the first steps. I often look at my clothes and ponder. Part of it is self-acceptance…my body has changed just enough to not fit properly into my pencil skirts which I love. The thing is, pencil skirts (or the ones I have) are so unforgiving. You can’t let anything slide, the pencil skirt will let you know. The margin for error, literally, is fractional. Part of it is also about feeling I have ‘enough’, whatever that means, when I let go of other pieces that no longer fit or are worn out. So I am picking some key pieces and purchasing them over time, so that when it comes time to let something go, I don’t feel that I need to replace it. I’m still working out what the uniform might be…so the process behind the scenes is still occurring. I will gain more clarity around this going forward – and so this is my intention – to build a better wardrobe. To feel and look better with less.
I also know that right now is not the time. I have other time-sensitive goals that are front and centre right now, and that the clothing questions can continue to just be. I am trusting in the process on this one (this is hard for me to do generally). I know the solution is coming and I don’t need to force it at this point.
Adrienne:
Ha! I read this last night while I was IN the women’s dress store, painting. So many beautiful things in there. She carries those clothing lines that are glamorous and casual at the same time. As I was setting up, I was still wearing black leggings and a black shirt. I felt like a slinky black canvas moving between the racks. I highly recommend wearing that when you go shopping next time. it’s literally like shopping naked.
I hope though that you do have at least one pencil skirt in your future arsenal- you love those! Just get a bigger one! And I mean really, do it for the shoes. Forget you; THEY need a pencil skirt to feel beautiful and at home.
My weight fluctuates, always has due to the french fry and cheese supplements. Sometimes I’m taking them, sometimes I’m on a break. I always have a pair of jeans that will accommodate that. Honestly, how I’m dressed really affects how I feel, and literally my confidence. People stare at me, mostly because I’m interesting and attractive, but definitely also because of my reflex buffoonery. So, when they do, if I feel self-conscious, that will trigger an awesome round of self-loathing. I don’t always look good to someone else, but I always feel good and right in my clothes.
This is important, in my opinion. Really important. The Funkinista in me sees the Fashionista in you!
Parker:
Thank you slinky black canvas Funkinista (so many good terms here!!)!
Yes, you’re right, at least do it for the shoes! I do have one blue pencil skirt I purchased in the past 6 months, so I’m not completely bereft of pencil skirts. I also know that I am going to change jobs this year (how’s that for a big intention!), and I want to see what the work style might be there, as my current one is quite casual and often takes the fun out of a good pencil skirt ha ha.
