I Already Am

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A few days ago I took in a client’s dog who is going through a really hard time.  She has been caring for her mother who has been very ill for a very long time but recently found out her time is near.  She called me very upset and asked if I could board her dog so she could concentrate wholeheartedly on her family in a very tough time.  I said I absolutely would free of charge and for long as needed.

It just felt right and at a time like this the caregiver in me needs to be able to help in some way, any way.  That is how I get through the tough times.  By helping others.  I am glad she allowed me to.

Yesterday morning I felt the need to email her and let her know I was thinking about her.  I didn’t want her to feel that she had to answer me but if she felt the need to talk, scream, drink wine or anything at all really with me I would be there as I understand how brutal it is to go through losing someone.

I have lost many close to me.  I hesitated because one never knows exactly what to say at a time like this especially to a client but I didn’t want to not say anything and regret it.  I would rather take the time to say something than not say anything at all because we just never know if we will get another chance.

I’m so glad I did.  Last night her mother passed away.

I like to think of it like a group of people standing around someone who has fallen.  If I reach my hand out maybe others will chose to do the same and slowly she may have the nerve to grab on and let those around her pull her up and hold her there until she’s capable of standing on her own again.  This takes time and we each go through the good and the bad in our own way.  I’ve been through some really tough times and I’ve had some really great friends there to help hold me up.  I want to be that kind hearted person that people can lean on when they are falling.  I already am.


Great post. It’s amazing to have the opportunity to boil life down to it’s simplicity like this. Helping others. It’s such a reminder how when we help others, we help ourselves.

And honestly, this is the heart of that. You didn’t do it for you. You did it for her. That’s why it is so important.

Thanks Amber. xo

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