I’ll be honest, it took me some time to figure out what I have ever done to actually scare myself… and not only scare myself but to have grown from it. Living in my comfort zone is my happy place. But, then it came flooding in while my husband and I were away on vacation: “You will never conquer any oceans, if you don’t lose sight of the shore!”
My fear is leaving my children.
I’m afraid of travelling without them. Mostly because if something were to happen to them when I was not with them, I don’t know if I could live with myself. But secondly, if something were to happen to my husband and I at the same time… well, let’s not think about it.
Every single time I leave I have this fear. Even if it’s on a day trip to Cranbrook to shop by myself. And let me tell you, I LOVE shopping and it is worth the day trip!
The amazing thing though, is that every time we leave and spend some time away alone, we grow – as individuals, and as a couple. We are able to escape the regular parenthood routine, our business and our every day home life. We can focus on being a couple.
I truly believe that for every couple raising kids, or any single parent, having a life outside of being a mom or dad is essential to being happy.
One of my favourite things to do, even for only a few hours, is to go on a date. It is not selfish, but it has taken me a long time to figure that out, to see how it is positive. Every time we step away, we are left with a deeper appreciation of each other. We’re able to take a step back and value how amazing our lives are!
We can relax and we can breathe.
We come home in a new space.
It has taken a journey for me to be comfortable with being away from the kids, but I know that it is good for all of us.
There is nothing more amazing, than to come back home. That is the safest and most loving place of all.